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Writer's Block: Kids or child-free?

Whether you've chosen to have children or live child-free, how and when did you (or will you) reach this decision? If you're in a relationship, did you (or will you) decide separately or together?

I'm single and I feel that, for me, it's only appropriate that I'm childless. If I ever get married, my husband and I will make the decision about children. If in the unlikely event that I got married anytime soon, I'd have to lean towards adoption, mainly because I inherited a lot of bad genes, and I really don't want to pass those on. Then there's my history of clinical depression -- the possibility of postpartum psychosis scares me. Basically, my husband would have to do a lot of convincing to get me to have kids with him.

Then again, I once had a dream I was pregnant, and I felt absolute joy in the dream. So maybe he wouldn't have to do that much convincing.

A couple of weeks ago, Mom said that if I'm going to remain childfree, I should look into sponsoring one of those poor kids you see on TV through Catholic Relief Services or one of those other charities. I was surprised to hear her say that, but considering I'm thirtysomething, she knows that most of my childbearing years are behind me. Besides, she already has four grandkids, and both my brothers might have more kids in the future.