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I dread going home.

Today's the 2nd anniversary of Jacob's death (Patty's kid from her first relationship). As much as I miss my almost-nephew, I've had a rough day and don't look forward to listening to Patty cry all night. Nor do I want to go to the cemetary. Can I just stay at work till tomorrow night?


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May. 31st, 2005 09:30 pm (UTC)
I don't want to sound heartless. Everyone mourns in their own way, in their own time. But I begin to believe that Kalob is going to be incredibly fucked up because of her histrionics. It is terrible that he died, terrible to lose a child, a horror I hope I and my loved ones never experience. But dragging the rest of the family to the cemetary to be her grief-audience seems, well, a little inappropriate. I don't think it should be a special event. And I think your family acquiescing to such bullshit and pressuring you to go along with it even though you KNOW it's just acting out only encourages her to wallow in her grief rather than celebrate that she had that baby and knew him and loved him and was gifted with him, and that he's now in a much better place waiting for her. If you feel the need to visit with him, go, if you don't, don't. All that's in the cemetary is a shell, all of Jacob that truly mattered is with you all the time.
Jun. 1st, 2005 11:54 am (UTC)
I have to agree with you about Kalob. He'll always have his brother's shadow hanging over him. For Justice, I don't think it'll be as bad. Anyway, it freaking pour yesterday, so no cemetary trip. Thank God.
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